Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen

See, here’s the dilemma.

I’m in the classic ‘I’ll call you’ (never calls) guy situation.

Except the guy is my fiancé. Well, I’m sorry to say that in my situation all the clichés ring true.

The old ‘treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen’ philosophy seems particularly apt. I hate to say it but I think a lot (and note not all, just a lot) of men just want it because they can’t have it.

It’s the struggle that’s the thrill. The ‘chase‘. And yes, fine, being alluring and mysterious is all well and good to start off with…but when he’s got down on one knee surely all that can be a thing of a past?

The sad thing is, I think I’m starting to see how a marriage can become stale…and I haven’t even got up the bloomin’ isle yet, because the truth is this…you have to be what you were at the beginning…the challenge, the trophy at the end of the fight, the forbidden fruit… to keep that passion alive.

He treats me like a princess when he hasn’t seen me in a little while longer than normal, he’s more eager to talk to me when it’s been harder for him to get hold of me, and he gives me more attention when I give him the casual disinterest or the ‘I’m busy, I’ve got other things on my mind’ treatment for a few days.

Dressing up sexy amounts to nothing unless he has to work for it.

And that seems to be the key.

Making him work for it.

And it can be hard work, almost painful, on both sides sometimes.

Hell it’s got me into some pretty damn serious arguments before.

But is it worth it?

Hell yeah.

Every single time.

Because the harder he has to work, the more its worth to him.

The mysterious girl is more interesting and it’s so easy to be her. It feels good being her when you remember who she is; busy and active and in a strange way super flirty, super sexy. I won’t deny it, it’s hard work to start off with, but once you‘ve got it, by God its amazing, liberating even.

As for the guy who hasn’t called? Well that’s fine. But when he does decide to pick up the phone I might be out ;)